Of fluttery butterflies and "I do": Of self-discovery and changes

I have learnt something in the past few months since Himself popped the question and I said "yes":

Preparing and getting married is a chapter in our lives, and how it is in itself a journey of self-discovery and change. For example, Germs told me how she finds her sister, Fiona, is being fickle-minded when it comes to her wedding, not knowing exactly what she wants. I think it is because Fiona is in a place where she is trying to find herself, the perfect gown, bridal shoes, or wedding settings that resonates with her.

Isn't it a phase in our adolescent years that we could all relate to? Finding our own identity in a world that can often proved exhilarating and overwhelming at the same time? Thumbing through one bridal magazine after another and working through all the myriad of bridal gowns are somewhat similar.

Also, I realised that beside coming to know myself better, I realised that we change and perhaps grow and evolve in the process too. I am so glad that I am given the luxury of time in this journey, to pay more attention to the things that happen and learn from it.

When I first embarked on this, I thought I wanted to something more childlike - braids and flowers in my hair. It has not changed, but it has evolved. I wanted a more womanly look with traces of childlikeness. Perhaps it was not the childlikeness that I was striving for, but the concept of being carefree with a subtle defiance, snubbing conventions and following one's heart. At the same time, I would like to be able to reflect femininity, soft but resilient.

This line of thought gradually caused me to explore more into Bohemian style. I now see myself wearing beaded brocade shoes rather than shoes with lace. I see the possibility of a head band made of lace and pearls instead of flowers set amongst a head of braids and long, flowing curls (which reminds me, I need to start growing out my hair!)

Some of the hairpieces that I really love (at this point in my life):